Where have you been lately?
I’ve been out with lanterns, searching for myself −adapted from Emily Dickinson.
If you’ve been on the midlife journey for a while, you likely know by now that healing and growth is not linear. It’s more like a winding road, with twists and turns, valleys and mountain top moments. The winds of change in this season is always blowing.
I recently returned from a trip ‘home’ to Cape Town with reminders that nothing changes if nothing changes. Stepping back into the landscape of my past felt both familiar and strange. Most things looked the same, but I wasn’t. The time away had chipped away parts of me that needed shedding, and added new layers that helped look at my history through a different lens.
An Invitation to The Midlife Homecoming
The trip sparked an idea for a new spring series that at its heart, explores what happens when our lives become too tightly interwoven with others—when our boundaries blur and the past spills into the present.
It unpacks what psychologists call enmeshment that keep us tangled in generational patterns, toxic relationships, and inherited cultural scripts. It focuses on personal agency, self-determination, and reshaping what connection looks like—without guilt, without erasure, and without losing ourselves in the name of love.
It weaves personal reflections, psychology, faith, and philosophy with scenic metaphors from my trip and life in steady motion. The series is guided by deeply intuitive writing—a look behind the scenes of an INFJ mind navigating identity, healing, and creative rebirth.
This series is not about victims and villains. It’s about healing and reclaiming wholeness. It’s about learning to stay in relationship without losing yourself. And it’s an offering to anyone who feels the weight of blurred boundaries, lost identity, or systems that demand compliance at the cost of your peace.
If that’s you, whether you’re just beginning to recognize the signs of enmeshment or already deep into the journey of individuation, this series invites you to:
- Recognize the cycles that keep you stuck.
- Honour your need for autonomy while staying connected to others meaningfully.
- Acknowledge the emotional costs of staying enmeshed—and the quiet joy of stepping out.
- Reflect and integrate through guided journal prompts and insights.
This is a resource for the brave and the weary. For those disentangling themselves from love that smothers, not nurtures. For those ready to step fully into their own story—whole, wise, and more fully alive.
I hope you’ll join me in this exploration, not just as a reader, but as a fellow traveller. Because individual healing, when undertaken with courage, is the beginning of something even greater: collective freedom.
The journey back to your whole self matters. For you. For your relationships and for the world we’re trying to build.